24 hours is too long to talk to your partner you are in a relationship with.

“24 hours is too long a period to go without talking to a person you claim to be in a relationship with. Even for a very understanding partner there must be a very strong reason for them to endure so many hours of anxiety and heart ache. Perhaps you’re undergoing a medical procedure. If you claim to need so long periods of silence and non engagement as a away to cool off your tempers, then you shouldn’t be dating anyone. Date those tempers.

Your emotions are your responsibility and if you cannot control yourself to keep a relationship going you’re incapable of any healthy relationship. And if the other person is deliberately manipulative, what are you still doing in that relationship?

Love by nature requires constant connection, much like the rhythm required by two sailors rowing a boat side by side. There must be a kind of dance or harmonic enegery between the two of them, to keep the momentum steady. Any interruption in communication throws the whole activity off. Naturally, our emotions are vulnerable to anxiety and tension when we are left hanging by the ones we’re in love with. If for any reason they will be unavailable for a stretch of some hours and you are both aware of it, the other person can keep busy knowing the reason for the silence. Even then they will still miss them but they hold themselves because they’re assured there is no other problem.

What if they have annoyed you and you need time to cool off lest you try to talk then you explode? If you’re living in the same house there’s at least some contact because they can see you physically and they know you’re well, and so your silence may not be too damaging. But if you’re living far apart you cannot go off on them completely without shaking the very foundations of that relationship. This will cause too much anxiety and uncertainty because they cannot tell if you’re okay health wise and if you’ve decided to break off with them. Even after you switch back on or unblock them, the fear of you disappearing on them will remain in them, and it might make them to never be fully invested in that relationship again.

This is how relationships that had much potential are ruined through childish and foolish acts. If it looks normal to you to be over-punishing your lover when you’re claiming to be ‘taking your time’ and yet you’re aware of the hell you’re taking them through, I hope they leave your non-empathetic, narcissistic abuse soon.

When you need time alone, better to express your need for it and even during that time exchange minimal greetings and updates about other aspects of your lives like job or children.”